This summer our church leadership decided to try something a little different. We have set up some specific events to enhance discipleship and one of the first things was a double date night. We separated our couples by length of time married and our goal (although this wasn’t done perfectly) was to put couples together that had been married with a ten year difference. So, we may have had couples who were married 15 years who were learning from a couple who had been married 25 years or longer. Some of our questions for both couples to respond to included:
- How did you meet?
- How long have you been married?
- How did you come to know Christ?
- Did you come to Christ before or after you were married and, how do you think that impacted your marriage?
But after they got to know each other with some initial questions, we then wanted the couple who had been married the fewest years to ask a few questions of the other couple. Questions like:
- What is the most challenging things you have faced as a couple? (Be as general or specfic as you want).
- What was the best year of your marriage?
- What was the best date you ever went on?
- What do you wish you would have known 10 years ago to better prepare you for where you are now?
We did this because we talk so much about marriage but we do so little to really enable and equip people in their marriage. While there are great resources available for couples both online and in print, God has given us an entire church full of resources. People who are sinners, with all of their great victories and defeats, can be used incredibly to guide others with grace. I know all of us enjoyed date night and over the days ahead we will see the effects of time well invested. If you didn’t make it but would like to experience this type of discipleship as a couple, email me and we can help set that up.